Anonymous said: could you tell us how you started being a sb and any tips on starting?
I have a friend who started sugaring a couple years ago. She showed me seeking arrangement. I learned a lot from her. I’d follow her on her dates to make sure she was safe and she would always give me the address name time place and all the info about her dates. A few of my friends including myself entered the sugar world after that. I have met some other SBS by being in the circle as well.
I have a tips page…
1) Most important. Always stay safe. Meet in public, do background checks, use a fake name until you trust someone, make sure STD/STI tests are done regularly.
2) Always be sweet.
3) Be upfront, but not desperate before you meet so you don’t waste your time or his.
4) Always act vulnerable, however don’t actually be vulnerable.
5) As you meet different men in the Sugar World, you will learn to feel out their personality. Not all will want the “vulnerable girl”, however most will.
a) The assertive, dominate, bitch. Some men like to be abused mentally and used for their money. These men tend to love me. I have no problem with taking control.
b) The baby girl type. This is the vulnerable , naive one that doesn’t speak much and needs an older, mature man to ‘guide her’.
c) Crazy-mood swing-party girl. This girl will take off without a notice and love you the next second. She is charming, smart, funny, open-minded, and self-defensive. Men who always want the next best thing or who are hard to keep interested, love this type.
d) The no-drama, everything is chill, sometimes a party girl, sometimes not chick. My good friend is this girl. She makes the most as a sugar baby compared to any of my friends that I know. Try 11,000 in less than 3 hours of shopping without sex! She has a care-free attitude, you want to take care of her, impress her, and win her over. If a guy says something or wants something she doesn’t like she will gladly tell him no. She giggles, doesn’t mind talking about porn, draws you in with her eyes, and is sweet as can be. She will sing out of tune and meet a sugar daddy in sweats with no make-up.
e) Yourself. Some guys like when you are just yourself. -_- What a thought.
It may sound weird to be anything, but yourself, however to be honest to get what I want I often have to embody other women, other traits. I grew up acting for years, so maybe my love for acting has carried over to the sugar baby world. If I need/want something, I will do almost anything to get it. Each of the personalities have different names. I give all men different names. If they need to know my real name later, I just tell them the name I gave them is a family name everyone has always called me.
6) In your phone save their name with where you met, their real name, city, and screen name or member number. You may also want to keep a notebook with all their info, including your allowance, gifts, where you went on your date, their address, etc. Once you get caught up with all these men it can be hard to keep up!
7)If you have sugar baby friends, learn from them, help each other, share guys(after you are done with them pass them on or if you find out the some guy talks to you both offer him a package deal for a good amount of money each and that doesn’t mean sex unless you want it to. it just means he gets two pretty girls.). Also, it never hurts to have them or someone else watch your dates.
8) Have a witty, charming profile that makes guys have to message you!
9) When a guy asks, well what do I get out of this, make sure you return with the same question for him.
10) If you have sex with any of these guys, don’t let them “test drive” you before you receive your allowance or what you were promised.
11) Use a separate e-mail for anything sugar related.
12) Google voice is your best-friend.
13) Read “The Art of Seduction”.
14) Make sure you have photos up where you look your best. A full body photo, side angle, a natural looking photo. Show you are fun, sexy innocent. I wouldn’t put up any photos that are too provocative. Make them work to see the sexy photos and you in sexier outfits. Be demure so they don’t look at you as “just sex”.
Sometimes when men ask me for photos when I have already sent them, I ask the how bad they want the photos. Then playfully ask them what do I get in return. Then I tell them I’d like this bill paid, money in my pay pal account, cash money gram, a gift card, or a gift sent to me before we meet, etc. Don’t ask this too soon though. You want want to seem like a money eater. Wait til you talk for a couple days and he has see a couple photos of you already.
15) You may want to have different profiles to attract different men. Example: An innocent profile and a dominate vixen.
And also, read some recent posts. Someone asked me about not having sex with sugar daddies and I gave some advice on that. I need to update my tips and add some more pages. Stay tuned in the next week or so for more updates. I will post when I do update everything. Thank you anon and good luck.
Just charm them to get what you want and stay safe . :)